Oliver’s mom says he’s a ‘hero’… and other babies can be, too, if given a chance

At the Children’s Colorado Foundation, pediatric intensive care nurse Becca Kalivas shares the story of her son, Oliver, whom she calls “my hero.” After struggling with infertility for seven years, she and her husband Alex finally conceived a son… only to learn at a 20-week ultrasound that their son had hypoplastic left heart syndrome, a congenital condition in which the left side of the heart is severely underdeveloped. She writes:

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Hope. That’s what Becca’s doctors gave her. Unfortunately, not all parents get this kind of support, as in some countries, more than 70 percent of children diagnosed prenatally with hypoplastic left heart syndrome are aborted. Often, when it comes to children with disabilities, doctors give a grim prognosis. While a diagnosis of hypoplastic left heart syndrome does mean a difficult road ahead, death should never be considered the preferred solution for a child with disabilities or challenges. Live Action News’ Kristi Burton Brown wrote about another baby like Oliver in 2017 — Bowen Hammitt, whose parents chose life for him after his own congenital heart defect diagnosis. “While great advances in medical science have enabled the majority of babies with HLHS to live, not all are guaranteed a long life. Some are stillborn. Others die within the first five years. And many are aborted by their parents,” Brown wrote. “While it’s understandable when parents want to prevent their children from pain and suffering, this is not a valid reason to kill them.”

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Becca goes on to detail Oliver’s struggles, expressing great love and admiration for her son:

Oliver’s fundraising page notes that “Oliver will require a final palliative heart surgery in a few years, but for now he is growing and thriving at home.” Surgeries don’t “cure” children of this congenital heart defect, but they certainly enable them to live longer, fuller lives. And, with the support of loving and strong parents, and teams of doctors who value their lives, babies like Oliver will likely accomplish far more than anyone ever dreamed possible.

Becca says that watching her son go through his difficulties has actually caused growth in her, writing, “… I’ve realized my courage, my strength, my purpose has come from Oliver. I’ve watched this baby not just meet every challenge, but overcome it with a quiet strength and a fierce determination unlike anything I’ve ever seen. I’ve watched him struggle, but more importantly, I’ve watched him thrive in spite of everything he’s been handed. I’ve witnessed firsthand what it means to be truly courageous.”

She adds, “When I first found out I was pregnant, I never would have guessed that my infant son would be the one who taught me about courage, but that is absolutely what has happened. My little man is my hero. In his joy, I’ve found my bliss. In his strength, I’ve found mine. In his resilience, I’ve found my resolve. In his unwavering bravery, I’ve found my courage.”

According to the CDC, “each year about 960 babies in the United States are born with hypoplastic left heart syndrome. In other words, about 1 out of every 4,344 babies born in the United States each year is born with hypoplastic left heart syndrome.”

Oliver and his parents have been through many difficulties, but those difficulties — and their love — have made them all stronger.