A woman hoping to find her future husband instead found a relationship that led to an unexpected pregnancy, and an abortion she was pressured into.
The wrong path from a dating app
Logan Redmond-Davila had hoped that while in nursing school she would meet her future husband like her friends had, but it wasn’t meant to be. Yearning to meet a marriage partner, she went on the Tinder dating site only to end up engaging in a brief affair that resulted in an unexpected pregnancy and years of torment.
Redmond-Davila told Live Action News, “I had known this guy for just a few months. I was lapping up the attention I was getting on Tinder and felt desired and loved, but it led me down the wrong path.”
When she took a pregnancy test after noticing her menstrual period was late, it was positive. “I had to lie down on the floor to catch my breath, I was so overwhelmed,” Redmond-Davila said. “I was in such denial that I took about six tests in total.”
She had always been pro-life, so she didn’t immediately consider abortion.
She visited Embrace Grace Ministry, where she was given a care box. “I tried to figure out how to make single motherhood work but every solution I came up with was met with resistance,” she said. “I didn’t want to disappoint my parents and thought about moving back home yet worried about not finding a job and being without insurance.”
Inside the Embrace Grace box was a story about adoption. Redmond-Davila thought about placing her baby for adoption, but was concerned about whether the adoptive family would provide a good home for her child. Daycare was expensive, so that also wasn’t an option.
“At the pregnancy center, I was given an ultrasound and was hoping the baby wasn’t viable,” Redmond-Davila said. “But I could see my baby moving around, and while I thought I saw something on her back, the technician assured me everything was fine.”
Delivering babies after killing her own
Returning home, Redmond-Davila called the man who fathered her baby. The news of her pregnancy sent him into a tailspin. “He completely freaked out about the pregnancy and urged me to have an abortion,” she said. “He was only working part-time and was still in school. He had no interest in being a father.”
She scheduled an appointment at an abortion facility, and was given the option to undergo a chemical or surgical abortion.
“I was about 10 weeks along but chose to have the surgery,” Redmond-Davila said. “I asked for pain medication after hearing a woman scream in another room. The procedure was still so painful that I clutched the hand of a support person.”
She was told to expect some bleeding, but no after-care instructions were given. Her best friend stayed with her overnight and the next day, she went to work at the hospital.
Redmond-Davila said, “Here I was a labor and delivery nurse helping to bring babies into the world after killing my own. After my three-day shift ended, I just cried.”
A few days later, a staff member from the pregnancy center called to tell her a physician had read the scan and determined her baby was healthy. “I started sobbing and told her I had an abortion,” Redmond-Davila said. “She wept with me and offered words of comfort and prayer, but I was angry that I had terminated the life of a healthy baby. That’s when I started to spiral downward.”
When not working, she’d lie on the couch, watch TV and eat. Soon, her weight had ballooned 100 pounds. She felt dirty, not worthy of love. She wore loose fitting clothes and stopped wearing makeup. Struggling with depression, she sought secular counseling, only to be told she made the right choice by aborting her baby. But it didn’t feel right.
Finding Peace
Then she heard that Embrace Grace Ministry was seeking volunteers, so she reached out to find out more.
“I didn’t feel worthy of volunteering in this capacity, especially since I had an abortion, but was told I was exactly the right person to help other women,” she said. “During this time, I was still trying to convince myself I had made the right decision.”
At the pregnancy center, she learned about an abortion recovery class and enrolled. “I discovered that I could get redemption despite what I did,” she said. “I learned about the importance of forgiveness but couldn’t forgive myself. The facilitator asked me if I was bigger than God. She said his mercy covers my sins. I had to accept that to move forward.”
For Redmond-Davila, forgiveness meant reaching out the man who impregnated her. In her mind, he had gotten off scot-free from experiencing all the turbulent emotions she had wrestled with.
“To my surprise, he wasn’t okay,” she said. “He had gone to counseling for his part in the abortion.”
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Over time, Redmond-Davila started to heal. She focused on nurturing her relationship with the Lord, relying on Him to use her story in a meaningful way. “I became move involved with Embrace Grace, but felt God leading me to do abortion recovery, though the time was not yet right.”
She entered grad school, and had an opportunity to share her story with another woman who disclosed that she, too, had an abortion.
When Redmond-Davila finally met the man who would be her husband, he offered her love and support when she told him about her past. Yet when the couple married and tried to start a family, she had difficulty conceiving.
“I searched online for a coach and tools to help me with my anxiety. That’s when I got connected to Brittany Poppe, a pro-life activist who helps post-abortive women heal from trauma. I ended up spearheading her social media activities.”
The partnership flourished, and Redmond-Davila started assisting Poppe with “Forgiven and Set Free” groups, starting first as a silent co-facilitator. Today, Redmond-Davila co-leads meetings on a virtual platform and is expecting a child in August.
God had been guiding Redmond-Davila all along.
“So many people need restoration and redemption,” Redmond-Davila said. “I have a newfound passion to help others break the bondage of sin and find peace. Like me, they can be free from guilt and shame and feel worthy of God’s love.”
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