Human Matters with Sami Parker: The men who are quietly getting it right

In the latest episode of Human Matters with Sami Parker, a YouTube video series powered by Live Action, Parker discusses two types of polar opposite men that appear to be dominating social media today, explaining why neither one is the ideal.

Instead, she says, the man everyone's actually looking for is the one no one online is talking about.

Key Takeaways:

• In this episode of Human Matters, host Sami Parker discusses two types of men prevalent online: the manosphere man and the progressive man.

• She says the manosphere man is reclaiming the male dominance lost to feminism, but doing so in a distorted way.

• Alternatively, the progressive man refuses to lead and avoids responsibility.

• In the middle is the good man, who becomes both a servant and a leader. This man models his life after Christ.

The Details:

The Men Who Are Quietly Getting it Right

Parker starts the episode juxtaposing two different kinds of men: the "manosphere" man and the "progressive" man. The manosphere man wants to “take the power and indulge in it,” while the progressive man "denounces power and responsibility entirely."

"These two visions of manhood look completely opposite," she explains, "but are both trying to answer the same question: What do I get out of being a man?"

These two differing ideals also result in the same thing: a man centered around himself.

The 'Manosphere' Man

Parker dives deeper into the problem of the manosphere man, describing him as someone who is reclaiming the male dominance lost to feminism, but doing so in a distorted way.

"In the manosphere, to be seen as 'high-value' you should seek wealth and status above pretty much anything else, but it's not directed towards the good of anything," Parker explains.

"You should work hard, you should work out and be strong, but not to protect your wife and kids. Not to protect those who are vulnerable around you. You should be strong so people around you perceive you as dominant."

This movement, she says, directs the male desires to lead and protect wrongly, putting the focus on the man himself instead of how he can serve and protect those around him.

The 'Progressive' Man

Alternatively, the progressive man is one who has taken a step back from leading. Instead, he avoids responsibility altogether.

"Progressivism convinces men to step back, sit down, and let the women and marginalized stand and do what men have been doing for centuries — providing, leading, and protecting," she says.

She later elaborates:

"This movement is appealing to men because it offers a relief for men to remove responsibility from their shoulders in the name of helping others. But it falls short because this 'goodness' just becomes passivity. It enables evil."

The Good Man

Thankfully, these two extremes are not the only options. In the middle of the two is the 'good' man, whom Parker says "is not one who rejects strength or indulges it, but one who orders his strength toward the good of others."

"He doesn’t choose between being a leader or a servant," she says. "He becomes both."

Notably, she says, many of these men aren't online — they are quietly living their lives, leading fearlessly and serving selflessly.

The Bottom Line:

Parker emphasized that the answer to the most important question — what is man for? — is found in Christ.

"A good man leads like Him, serves like Him, sacrifices like Him," she says. "When men live like that, women are safer, children are protected, and the world is a better place. That's the man no one's talking about, but he's the one we need."