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In her new memoir, "Daddy Issues," Sofia Franklyn, founder of the "Call Her Daddy" and "Sofia with an F" podcasts, shared that in 2023 she underwent an abortion within 48 hours of learning she was pregnant — and she was unprepared for the emotional turmoil that followed.
Sofia Franklyn had an abortion at five weeks gestation, about 48 hours after learning she was pregnant.
She admitted she has suffered from shame and guilt that she feels no one prepared her for.
Abortion trauma is real, and 34% of women have reported suffering from anger, shame, and regret after an abortion.
In her book, Franklyn describes learning she was pregnant after returning home to New York from a work trip to Los Angeles. She had been feeling bloated, and her boyfriend, Aidan, suggested that she might be pregnant.
"...I reassure him [it] isn't possible because I took the Chinatown version of Plan B," she wrote. "I pee on a stick to prove it."
But she's proven wrong. She was pregnant, and as soon as possible, she headed to Planned Parenthood, the nation's biggest abortion business. There, the pregnancy was confirmed. She was about five weeks pregnant.
"'Okay... Can I get an abortion?' I ask, genuinely not knowing what comes next."
Planned Parenthood attempted to schedule an abortion for the following week, but that didn't work for Franklyn, as she was to be in Europe two days later.
"I have to get it now," she told them. So, Planned Parenthood found room in its schedule for the abortion the next morning. As she returned to Planned Parenthood for the appointment, her mother and brother were flying to New York to meet her before heading off on a family-only trip to the Amalfi Coast for Franklyn's birthday.
On the trip, she decided to tell her mother about the abortion. She wrote:
When I finally tell my mom, once a [21]-year-old pregnant with me, I feel guilty for being [30] and getting rid of it within [48] hours. I think about the so-called life I’m protecting by not having a baby—the partying, the numbing, the running. How can I bring new life into the world when I don’t live a life worth keeping myself?
But her emotions didn't start and end with guilt over aborting her baby without a second thought. She wrote that "my feelings about my abortion are, in many ways, still pending, and frankly, it still feels very wrong to share publicly."
Yet, she chose to share because she explained that she wanted other women to be prepared for the emotional trauma:
When you have an abortion, the take-home packet gives you explicit instructions on what to do if you bleed through two pads per hour. But nowhere does it include guidance on the emotional clusterf**k that’s to come.
I took the pills at home, and weeks later I couldn’t recognize myself in the mirror, physically or mentally, and I couldn’t figure out why. I felt crazy.
I later learned that there is a physiological, hormonal, neurological chain reaction that occurs. No one prepares you for that part. At the time, all I had were Reddit threads and an off-handed comment my friend made to check my hormones months after.
Getting some answers, no matter how disparate, made it less scary.
She claims she wants "women to know that other women are having abortions. They are just not talking about it. We aren't supposed to."
But that's only partially true. The media tells women to 'shout their abortions,' and not to be ashamed. Yet, the shame often comes anyway, and that's what women are told they shouldn't feel: shame, regret, guilt, and pain.
Franklyn is not alone in her abortion-related emotional pain. Abortion supporters repeatedly deny or diminish the existence of abortion trauma. But countless women have come forward with their personal stories.
One study, conducted by Support After Abortion, found that 34% of women suffer “adverse impacts” like anger, shame, and regret after taking the abortion pill.
From the way Franklyn writes about her abortion, it seems that she chose abortion out of fear. She wonders, 'how she can bring new life into the world when she doesn't live a life worth keeping herself.' What she failed to see in that 48-hour window between the pregnancy test and abortion was that a baby would have changed the trajectory of her life — and not in a bad way.
This kind of trajectory change happened to a woman named Candice, who shared her story, explaining that she was 25, divorced, and suffering from addiction when she lost custody of her three children.
When she found out she was pregnant, her boyfriend wanted an abortion; she didn't. And then, after giving birth, her son was taken from her because of her drug use; that's when she decided it was time to straighten out her life.
“That was the last day I chose drugs,” she wrote. “I went to rehab & accepted Christ into my life. I made every parent visit, did every class, passed every drug test & worked my butt off to reunify just eight months later.”
In addition to getting off of drugs, she regained custody of her son and reunited with her husband. She got sober and eventually regained custody of her other children.
Babies, even those who arrive unexpectedly, can enhance a life and motivate parents to improve their situations and do better for the sake of their child.
Maybe that baby was exactly what Franklyn needed. Now, she needs to heal from her abortion.
Editor's Note: If you need healing and help after an abortion, please visit Live Action's resource page for options.
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·Sofia Franklyn shares her abortion guilt: 'No one prepares you for that'
In her new memoir, "Daddy Issues," Sofia Franklyn, founder of the "Call Her Daddy" and "Sofia with an F" podcasts, shared that in 2023 she underwent an abortion within 48 hours of learning she was pregnant — and she was unprepared for the emotional turmoil that followed.
Sofia Franklyn had an abortion at five weeks gestation, about 48 hours after learning she was pregnant.
She admitted she has suffered from shame and guilt that she feels no one prepared her for.
Abortion trauma is real, and 34% of women have reported suffering from anger, shame, and regret after an abortion.
In her book, Franklyn describes learning she was pregnant after returning home to New York from a work trip to Los Angeles. She had been feeling bloated, and her boyfriend, Aidan, suggested that she might be pregnant.
"...I reassure him [it] isn't possible because I took the Chinatown version of Plan B," she wrote. "I pee on a stick to prove it."
But she's proven wrong. She was pregnant, and as soon as possible, she headed to Planned Parenthood, the nation's biggest abortion business. There, the pregnancy was confirmed. She was about five weeks pregnant.
"'Okay... Can I get an abortion?' I ask, genuinely not knowing what comes next."
Planned Parenthood attempted to schedule an abortion for the following week, but that didn't work for Franklyn, as she was to be in Europe two days later.
"I have to get it now," she told them. So, Planned Parenthood found room in its schedule for the abortion the next morning. As she returned to Planned Parenthood for the appointment, her mother and brother were flying to New York to meet her before heading off on a family-only trip to the Amalfi Coast for Franklyn's birthday.
On the trip, she decided to tell her mother about the abortion. She wrote:
When I finally tell my mom, once a [21]-year-old pregnant with me, I feel guilty for being [30] and getting rid of it within [48] hours. I think about the so-called life I’m protecting by not having a baby—the partying, the numbing, the running. How can I bring new life into the world when I don’t live a life worth keeping myself?
But her emotions didn't start and end with guilt over aborting her baby without a second thought. She wrote that "my feelings about my abortion are, in many ways, still pending, and frankly, it still feels very wrong to share publicly."
Yet, she chose to share because she explained that she wanted other women to be prepared for the emotional trauma:
When you have an abortion, the take-home packet gives you explicit instructions on what to do if you bleed through two pads per hour. But nowhere does it include guidance on the emotional clusterf**k that’s to come.
I took the pills at home, and weeks later I couldn’t recognize myself in the mirror, physically or mentally, and I couldn’t figure out why. I felt crazy.
I later learned that there is a physiological, hormonal, neurological chain reaction that occurs. No one prepares you for that part. At the time, all I had were Reddit threads and an off-handed comment my friend made to check my hormones months after.
Getting some answers, no matter how disparate, made it less scary.
She claims she wants "women to know that other women are having abortions. They are just not talking about it. We aren't supposed to."
But that's only partially true. The media tells women to 'shout their abortions,' and not to be ashamed. Yet, the shame often comes anyway, and that's what women are told they shouldn't feel: shame, regret, guilt, and pain.
Franklyn is not alone in her abortion-related emotional pain. Abortion supporters repeatedly deny or diminish the existence of abortion trauma. But countless women have come forward with their personal stories.
One study, conducted by Support After Abortion, found that 34% of women suffer “adverse impacts” like anger, shame, and regret after taking the abortion pill.
From the way Franklyn writes about her abortion, it seems that she chose abortion out of fear. She wonders, 'how she can bring new life into the world when she doesn't live a life worth keeping herself.' What she failed to see in that 48-hour window between the pregnancy test and abortion was that a baby would have changed the trajectory of her life — and not in a bad way.
This kind of trajectory change happened to a woman named Candice, who shared her story, explaining that she was 25, divorced, and suffering from addiction when she lost custody of her three children.
When she found out she was pregnant, her boyfriend wanted an abortion; she didn't. And then, after giving birth, her son was taken from her because of her drug use; that's when she decided it was time to straighten out her life.
“That was the last day I chose drugs,” she wrote. “I went to rehab & accepted Christ into my life. I made every parent visit, did every class, passed every drug test & worked my butt off to reunify just eight months later.”
In addition to getting off of drugs, she regained custody of her son and reunited with her husband. She got sober and eventually regained custody of her other children.
Babies, even those who arrive unexpectedly, can enhance a life and motivate parents to improve their situations and do better for the sake of their child.
Maybe that baby was exactly what Franklyn needed. Now, she needs to heal from her abortion.
Editor's Note: If you need healing and help after an abortion, please visit Live Action's resource page for options.
Live Action News is pro-life news and commentary from a pro-life perspective.
Our work is possible because of our donors. Please consider giving to further our work of changing hearts and minds on issues of life and human dignity.
Contact editor@liveaction.org for questions, corrections, or if you are seeking permission to reprint any Live Action News content.
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