I was coerced into an abortion at Planned Parenthood by my baby’s father, and I wish I could go back and undo it

I’m a 29-year-old single mom… and I made the worst choice of my life last April.

I became pregnant and I knew in my heart of hearts that I wanted to place my baby in the arms of a loving mother and father who were together, and who could support my baby financially and give love as a family.

But my baby’s father put me in an awful position and situation… so I went against my heart, morals, and beliefs.

The Planned Parenthood staff could tell I was very undecided and not sure I wanted to go through with it. I asked for the ultrasound, which kills me to this day. It cost $100 to get the ultrasound in my hand. I remember being angry and making them charge it to the father. I remember looking at it, saying, “That’s a baby… our baby.” I took the ultrasound, knowing when we came that following week there was no way I’d be able to go through with it. But I did.

I will never forget the day or night before my abortion appointment; I talked and cried out to God for forgiveness, and I told my baby how sorry I was.

I cried on the way to meet with my baby’s father, and on the way into Planned Parenthood. I was the only woman crying in there from start to finish — a girl walking in sobbing, being patted on the back and told, “You’ll be ok.” I dont understand how they let me go through with it. I remember it all. I was hysterical in the exam room, and Planned Parenthood staff was telling me to relax because they didn’t want me to have complications.

I heard God’s voice tell me to get up and walk away, but I felt it was too late. Oh, how I wish I could turn back time.

It wasn’t something that I wanted to do and I felt beyond horrible about it. I knew I would be messed up mentally and emotionally from it all, and immediately, I came out a mess.

I felt no relief like so many others claim to feel. I was just beyond distraught. I remember getting to my best friend’s empty apartment after the procedure and I fell to the floor screaming, and cried my eyes out that afternoon. I was depressed for weeks, and then the weeks turned into months, yet I still had to be a parent to my 6-year-old daughter.

I remember my daughter would often ask me what was wrong when all mommy would do is cry and want to sleep.

I know loss. My firstborn daughter, Naomi, was born at 28 weeks due to severe preeclampsia. She survived outside my womb for 5 weeks. The pain of losing a child is indescribable and it stays with you forever. She would be 8 years old this April. I never thought I would be able to go on after losing my daughter. I was given my 6-year-old daughter by the grace of God.

I know what life is like in the womb at every stage and yet I went through with the worst thing imaginable.

I allowed my baby’s father to threaten me. He told me if I chose adoption like I wanted to, he would make my life a living hell.

I know that I’ve been forgiven by the Lord and saved by his grace, but I can’t lie… there’s not a day that I don’t wish I hadn’t gone through with what I did. I have flashbacks to that day, to the Planned Parenthood workers who just stared at me as I cried, not doing a thing. I still, to this day at times, cannot use a vacuum, and have to stop cleaning because I am reminded of the pain and memories I went through. Certain noises get to me and I turn away and try with all my might to block them out. It is also difficult to see babies who are the same age as my baby would be now.

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This April 9th marked a year for me since I had my abortion, and it really pains my heart. I have named my baby Abby.

Recently I found a story about Save the Storks and what they do to help other women. I also am thankful I have found Live Action. It is strongly on my heart to tell my story to help other girls and women to not go down the same path I did. They can choose life. There is hope, there are resources, and so much more. Abortion is not the answer, ever.

Editor’s Note: If you are pregnant and need help, are considering abortion, or if you’ve had an abortion and need to talk to someone, please click here for more information.