Singer-songwriter Amanda Palmer has a new album set to be released in March. The project, “There Will Be No Intermission,” was completely crowdfunded, and according to Palmer, filled with music about her own personal experiences. One song in particular is drawing attention due to its subject matter: abortion. Palmer, who reportedly has had three abortions, said the song is meant to be a sort of ode to abortion and the women who have had one. “I wrote this song as a gift, a handbook for any woman on her way to have an abortion, and as a reminder that this is not an experience you have to face alone,” she said in an interview with Paste. But the lyrics show just how heartbreaking it really is.
The lyrics of the song are painful, as Amanda addresses a friend who is about to have an abortion. “I know you’re in hell and you know that I know what you’re feeling,” she sings, adding how life can be cruel. “When you have a baby, they throw you a party,” she continues. “And then when you die they get together for a cry.” She goes on to bemoan how no one is going to celebrate or congratulate her, and that she doesn’t need to beg for forgiveness. But she concludes the song by again bringing up the notion of women who have abortions being in “hell” and affirms the need for post-abortion support.
It’s a strange grief but it’s grief
Look at all the women in the street
You know the statistics, Jill
Even though they may not help
Isn’t it amazing
How we can never tell
Who is in an identical hell
But I’ll be back in Boston by next Thursday
Why don’t I come over?
I can bring some friends if you want us to come
We can bring you cake and we can bring you flowers
We can bring you wine and we can talk for hours
Ukulele by request
We’ll throw you the best
On her Patreon website, Palmer further expounded on her reasons for writing the song, saying she had been struggling to write it for decades. “it wasn’t until i went to dublin, and found myself in the company of roisin ingle and the other irish women who had fought with blood, sweat and tears for their human rights… that it all clicked,” she wrote.
She later tweeted in response to a question that abortion is not necessarily a good thing, but that women need more care after going through the procedure.
i am not saying it is a good thing in itself. it sucks, when it happens. but sometimes we choose – and it happens. as a community, we need rituals to take care of one another in those fragile moments. that’s the point. so many women just walk around carrying useless shame, alone. https://t.co/KDd1sKeeik
— Amanda Palmer (@amandapalmer) February 25, 2019
Palmer isn’t wrong that women need support after an abortion, although she comes short of diving into why. Yet she doesn’t shy away from confronting the tragic reality of what abortion does to women, the pain it puts them through and how heart-wrenching it is for a woman to make such a decision. After all, women typically choose to have abortions because they think there’s no other option for them, and that they feel this way is a sign of how pro-abortion feminism has failed women. Meanwhile, these same pro-abortion advocates act as if abortion is some kind of force for social good, a positive thing for women to experience; therefore, many post-abortive women are left, as Palmer says, walking around alone, without support, filled with shame and pain and regret. But the abortion industry isn’t interested in helping women after they’ve collected their money.
Women need and deserve real choices. That women are still resigned to feel that their only choice is between their own life or that of their preborn child is a sad statement of how much still needs to be done to end abortion.
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