I like blog posts telling people what not to do. So when I saw a link to one entitled 10 Things You Should Never Say to a Miscarriage Survivor, I clicked. I read. I smiled. Author Devan McGuinness is straight on about the insensitive statements often used in an attempt to comfort someone who has suffered a miscarriage, but what is most inspiring to me was just how pro-life the post is.
McGuinness contributes to the being pregnant section of the popular web site Babble. In the February 24 post regarding miscarriage, the number 5 thing you shouldn’t say is, “It was not a real baby just a fetus.” Her reasoning:
“A ‘fetus’ is a baby. The mom will feel changes from very early on, making the transition to motherhood already there in her mind. It was a real baby.”
I can’t really explain how happy this made me. Yes, I love that she’s standing up for people who have miscarried, which is tremendous because too many of these women (and their partners) are made to feel as though their loss is no big deal. But here is this contributor on a major web site stating without hesitation that a fetus is a baby.